Something I wrote a while ago for my wonderful Mr O..
I want.......
To wake up every morning and find you next to me
To share my hopes and dreams with you
To laugh with you and cry with you as well
To show you the real me, no pretences
To know the real you, no pretences
To make mini-me's and mini you's
To be your number one fan
To be the safe place where your heart can reside
To be able to disagree with you but know you still love me
To forgive you when you hurt me and make me upset
To cook you your favourite meal and watch you wolf it down! LOL!
To pray with you as often as possible
To lie on the grass with you and listen to andrea bocelli and argue about what the words really mean
To learn the little things that make you smile and do them ever so often
To trust you with my heart and realize that I don't have to be so strong all the time
I want to do all these things just because.....Just because I love you!
(c) Esther Hadassah 2009
Thursday, 28 May 2009
Wednesday, 27 May 2009
Needing you without being needy
I just finished reading "The Ten Commandments of Dating", it's a nice book, one that can be read at any stage of a relationship and even better before embarking on a relationship. The first commandment is titled "Thou shalt get a life", sometimes single people become so focused on wanting to have a partner that they freeze the rest of their life, waiting for Mr/Miss Right to show up so they can resume the process of living. I know before I got into this relationship, I had my phases when I had no life but thankfully they were short and far between as I realised that I couldn't really know when I would be in a relationship, so no use waiting before doing some certain things so I told God, I was going to start doing my things and enjoying myself.
I remember a conversation I had with a friend, she was telling me about a business idea that she had for a while and it was really interesting because from the sound of it, to me it seemed like this was what she had been born to do. As our conversation drew to a close, she commented that she would start the business when she got married. I was surprised, as in what does marriage have to do with it, she said well, if she had to leave her job it would be good to have the cushion of another income, presumably her husbands'.
I understand that may make sense on the surface but girlfriend was not even in a relationship at the time, so when will this dream come to fruition exactly, my point is I felt she was looking for an excuse for not taking the risk that comes with launching into the deep, not that I blame her but I asked myself what I had been subconsciously delaying while waiting for Mr Right and what my expectations of marriage were. Someone to pay the cable bills while I sort out the phone bills, someone to split the rent with, someone to have children with (at a point in my life, this was my only reason for getting married, I had lost faith in what I call the M word, marriage!)
Selwyn Hughes says that the greatest obstacle to Christian marriage is "when one expects to have their basic personal needs met by their partner". He isn't saying your partner should not fulfill some needs but not your basic needs. These basic needs are self-worth, security and significance. I have to start asking myself some questions? What do I really need from Mr O? Friendship, companionship, affirmation, does my sense of worth stem from the relationship I have with him? Sometimes I wonder if this relationship has become an idol in my life. I know relationships need to be nurtured but I worry that I'm spending so much time horizontally and not focusing enough on my vertical relationship with my Heavenly Father.
I think the issue doesn't stem so much from the fact that we shouldn't love our partners but we should love nothing and no one more than God. This week, I had a long talk with God about priorities, prioritising God above all else. It's just hard sometimes, keeping everything in balance especially as God is not someone I can call up on the phone or go round to visit or go to the movies with, funny isn't it how I forget so easily that He is always here. I'm learning about practicing the presence of God.
I've always believed we should need our partners, after all why are we in relationships? I need Mr O's humour, calmness, support and rational approach to things to help me with my often harried lifestyle. It's just that fine line between needing someone and being a needy person. I see a needy person as someone that can't do without their partner. Pastor encourages couples to say to each other, "I can live without you (pause for effect) but I choose not to". I think that sums it up, we don't hold on so tightly to a person like we can't breathe if they aren't there. Aloted did a nice post on this here. I know I have a tendency to be clingy but sometimes to combat that I go to the other end of the spectrum, being totally aloof! Lol, help me Lord to live a balanced life.
Now, I'm aware of this, my prayer is for GOD to teach me about balance in all that I do and I'm sure keeping Him in the first position in my heart is a good place to start. Funny, how this post turned out, this wasn't how or even what I intended to write about but it's all good.
Till next time,
XoXo
I remember a conversation I had with a friend, she was telling me about a business idea that she had for a while and it was really interesting because from the sound of it, to me it seemed like this was what she had been born to do. As our conversation drew to a close, she commented that she would start the business when she got married. I was surprised, as in what does marriage have to do with it, she said well, if she had to leave her job it would be good to have the cushion of another income, presumably her husbands'.
I understand that may make sense on the surface but girlfriend was not even in a relationship at the time, so when will this dream come to fruition exactly, my point is I felt she was looking for an excuse for not taking the risk that comes with launching into the deep, not that I blame her but I asked myself what I had been subconsciously delaying while waiting for Mr Right and what my expectations of marriage were. Someone to pay the cable bills while I sort out the phone bills, someone to split the rent with, someone to have children with (at a point in my life, this was my only reason for getting married, I had lost faith in what I call the M word, marriage!)
Selwyn Hughes says that the greatest obstacle to Christian marriage is "when one expects to have their basic personal needs met by their partner". He isn't saying your partner should not fulfill some needs but not your basic needs. These basic needs are self-worth, security and significance. I have to start asking myself some questions? What do I really need from Mr O? Friendship, companionship, affirmation, does my sense of worth stem from the relationship I have with him? Sometimes I wonder if this relationship has become an idol in my life. I know relationships need to be nurtured but I worry that I'm spending so much time horizontally and not focusing enough on my vertical relationship with my Heavenly Father.
I think the issue doesn't stem so much from the fact that we shouldn't love our partners but we should love nothing and no one more than God. This week, I had a long talk with God about priorities, prioritising God above all else. It's just hard sometimes, keeping everything in balance especially as God is not someone I can call up on the phone or go round to visit or go to the movies with, funny isn't it how I forget so easily that He is always here. I'm learning about practicing the presence of God.
I've always believed we should need our partners, after all why are we in relationships? I need Mr O's humour, calmness, support and rational approach to things to help me with my often harried lifestyle. It's just that fine line between needing someone and being a needy person. I see a needy person as someone that can't do without their partner. Pastor encourages couples to say to each other, "I can live without you (pause for effect) but I choose not to". I think that sums it up, we don't hold on so tightly to a person like we can't breathe if they aren't there. Aloted did a nice post on this here. I know I have a tendency to be clingy but sometimes to combat that I go to the other end of the spectrum, being totally aloof! Lol, help me Lord to live a balanced life.
Now, I'm aware of this, my prayer is for GOD to teach me about balance in all that I do and I'm sure keeping Him in the first position in my heart is a good place to start. Funny, how this post turned out, this wasn't how or even what I intended to write about but it's all good.
Till next time,
XoXo
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Wednesday, 13 May 2009
Yummy recipes
As I prepare to be a Mrs, I want to try and cover all fronts; necessary for a balanced life methinks. Just a few recipes I've 'stolen' from the internet, I'm trying to be more adventerous in the kitchen. I'll give credits later but acknowledge that none of this recipes are mine. Feel free to try them out.
Xoxo.
Vegetarian Lasagna
You need:
Onions (1 1/2 - 2 large ones)
Garlic
Bay leaves
Tinned tomatoes (or real ones) 3 cans
Double concentrate tomatoes
Cinnamon
1 maggi cube (stock cube?)
Eggplant (2)
Olive oilCheese1)
First slice the eggplant into as thin slices as possible. Spread a little salt over each slice and let them rest for 30 minutes. This will drain some of the water out. After 30 minutes, put them in the oven with a little oil on 200 degrees C for about 15-20 minutes.
2)Whilst doing this, make the sauce. Start by cutting onions into tiny pieces, fry them with garlic in olive oil. Depends how much you like garlic, but at least 2-3 of them. Mix in 3-4 table spoons of double concentrate tomatoes and the maggi cube. Let it fry for a little bit. Add the tinned tomatoes, bay leaves and cinnamon. It's hard to explain how much, just let it look ok and taste along the way! When you put too much, you'll end up with a too bitter taste. Something that could help for this is add a teaspoon or two of sugar and some more tomatoes. Let this sauce simmer for like 1 hour but TASTE along the way to make sure its good!
3)Lay the slices of eggplant in the bottom of a casserole , just like you would with a lasagna. Layer with the sauce. Then repeat. Put sauce on the top, and some swiss cheese or something.
4) Put it in the oven for 20-30 minutes 200 degrees celcius. Delicious! Can be served with brown rice, sweet potatoes or ordinary potatoes. Really good with tzatziki too.This is how you make tzatziki: Grater half a cucumber into some plain low fat yoghurt, squeeze one garlic into it.Yes - I know garlic gives bad breath but whatever. it IS healthy.Last tip I have - Always try to make your salads as dark green as possible. Contains way more vitamins and nutrition. Spinach leaves works just fine and are very healthy.
Plantain vegetable stew
Awesome way to eat boiled plantain. Add tomatoes, vegetables (spinach), seasoning (like u r cooking stew), and chop the plantain in cubes. It is very, very yummy. Even the one made with green plantain.
Vegetable soup
Ingredients
3 sticks of celery , sliced
2 baking potatoes, diced
1 small/medium onion, diced
1/2-1 leek, sliced
4 small/medium tomatoes, chopped
2 carrots, sliced
1 vegetable stock in 600-800ml hot water
A large pot/pan
Method
1.Put all the vegetables in a pan to fry briefly for a few minutes.
2.Once the vegetables start to steam, add stock and salt.
3.Bring to boil then simmer with a lid on for about 30 minutes or until vegetables are soft.
4.Add pepper if desired and enjoy.
Serves: 2-4
Preparation time: 30 mins
Cooking time: 30-40 mins
Leek and potato soup recipe
Ingredients
Onion, chopped ?
1Leeks, chopped ?
3Large potatoes, chopped ?
2300ml veg or chicken stock
300ml semi skimmed milk
50ml dry white wine
Salt and pepper
Making Method
1. Put all of the vegetables, milk and stock into a large saucepan and bring to the boil.? Simmer on a lower heat for around 25 minutes.
2. Puree in a food processor or blender until it is all smooth.
3. Get a fresh pan and pour in the mixture, add the seasoning and the wine.? Heat soup through.
4. Serve immediately.
Serves: 4Total Preparation Time: 5 minutesTotal Cooking Time: 30 minutes
Chicken noodle soup
Ingredients
900ml chicken stock
1 boneless, skinless chicken breast,
about 175g/6oz1 garlic clove , finely chopped
1tsp fresh root ginger (chopped)
2 shredded spring onions
50g rice or wheat noodles
2 tbsp sweetcorn2-3 thinly sliced mushrooms
2 tsp soy sauce , plus a little extra for serving
mint or basil leaves
shredded chilli
Method
1. Pour the chicken stock into a medium sized pan, add the chicken, garlic & ginger and then bring to the boil. Once boiling reduce the heat, partly cover and allow to simmer for around 20 mins, the chicken will go tender during this time. After 20 mins is up take out the chicken and using a fork shred it into small bit sized pieces.
2. Place the chicken shred back into the stock with the noodles, corn, half the spring onion, mushrooms and the soy sauce. Simmer for around 4 mins until the noodles are soft and tender. Using a ladle pour the soup into two bowls and sprinkle the remaining onions, herbs and chilli shreds over each bowl.
Serves: 4Preparation time: 10 mins Cooking time: 30 mins
The recipes look simple enough, I've never cooked from a recipe before so I'm looking forward to it. Will be back to share on the experience!
Xoxo.
Vegetarian Lasagna
You need:
Onions (1 1/2 - 2 large ones)
Garlic
Bay leaves
Tinned tomatoes (or real ones) 3 cans
Double concentrate tomatoes
Cinnamon
1 maggi cube (stock cube?)
Eggplant (2)
Olive oilCheese1)
First slice the eggplant into as thin slices as possible. Spread a little salt over each slice and let them rest for 30 minutes. This will drain some of the water out. After 30 minutes, put them in the oven with a little oil on 200 degrees C for about 15-20 minutes.
2)Whilst doing this, make the sauce. Start by cutting onions into tiny pieces, fry them with garlic in olive oil. Depends how much you like garlic, but at least 2-3 of them. Mix in 3-4 table spoons of double concentrate tomatoes and the maggi cube. Let it fry for a little bit. Add the tinned tomatoes, bay leaves and cinnamon. It's hard to explain how much, just let it look ok and taste along the way! When you put too much, you'll end up with a too bitter taste. Something that could help for this is add a teaspoon or two of sugar and some more tomatoes. Let this sauce simmer for like 1 hour but TASTE along the way to make sure its good!
3)Lay the slices of eggplant in the bottom of a casserole , just like you would with a lasagna. Layer with the sauce. Then repeat. Put sauce on the top, and some swiss cheese or something.
4) Put it in the oven for 20-30 minutes 200 degrees celcius. Delicious! Can be served with brown rice, sweet potatoes or ordinary potatoes. Really good with tzatziki too.This is how you make tzatziki: Grater half a cucumber into some plain low fat yoghurt, squeeze one garlic into it.Yes - I know garlic gives bad breath but whatever. it IS healthy.Last tip I have - Always try to make your salads as dark green as possible. Contains way more vitamins and nutrition. Spinach leaves works just fine and are very healthy.
Plantain vegetable stew
Awesome way to eat boiled plantain. Add tomatoes, vegetables (spinach), seasoning (like u r cooking stew), and chop the plantain in cubes. It is very, very yummy. Even the one made with green plantain.
Vegetable soup
Ingredients
3 sticks of celery , sliced
2 baking potatoes, diced
1 small/medium onion, diced
1/2-1 leek, sliced
4 small/medium tomatoes, chopped
2 carrots, sliced
1 vegetable stock in 600-800ml hot water
A large pot/pan
Method
1.Put all the vegetables in a pan to fry briefly for a few minutes.
2.Once the vegetables start to steam, add stock and salt.
3.Bring to boil then simmer with a lid on for about 30 minutes or until vegetables are soft.
4.Add pepper if desired and enjoy.
Serves: 2-4
Preparation time: 30 mins
Cooking time: 30-40 mins
Leek and potato soup recipe
Ingredients
Onion, chopped ?
1Leeks, chopped ?
3Large potatoes, chopped ?
2300ml veg or chicken stock
300ml semi skimmed milk
50ml dry white wine
Salt and pepper
Making Method
1. Put all of the vegetables, milk and stock into a large saucepan and bring to the boil.? Simmer on a lower heat for around 25 minutes.
2. Puree in a food processor or blender until it is all smooth.
3. Get a fresh pan and pour in the mixture, add the seasoning and the wine.? Heat soup through.
4. Serve immediately.
Serves: 4Total Preparation Time: 5 minutesTotal Cooking Time: 30 minutes
Chicken noodle soup
Ingredients
900ml chicken stock
1 boneless, skinless chicken breast,
about 175g/6oz1 garlic clove , finely chopped
1tsp fresh root ginger (chopped)
2 shredded spring onions
50g rice or wheat noodles
2 tbsp sweetcorn2-3 thinly sliced mushrooms
2 tsp soy sauce , plus a little extra for serving
mint or basil leaves
shredded chilli
Method
1. Pour the chicken stock into a medium sized pan, add the chicken, garlic & ginger and then bring to the boil. Once boiling reduce the heat, partly cover and allow to simmer for around 20 mins, the chicken will go tender during this time. After 20 mins is up take out the chicken and using a fork shred it into small bit sized pieces.
2. Place the chicken shred back into the stock with the noodles, corn, half the spring onion, mushrooms and the soy sauce. Simmer for around 4 mins until the noodles are soft and tender. Using a ladle pour the soup into two bowls and sprinkle the remaining onions, herbs and chilli shreds over each bowl.
Serves: 4Preparation time: 10 mins Cooking time: 30 mins
The recipes look simple enough, I've never cooked from a recipe before so I'm looking forward to it. Will be back to share on the experience!
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