Thursday 7 October 2010

Hello or goodbye?

Hello people

Thank you so much for your encouraging comments, prayers and advice. I signed into the blog to post something once or twice but I really didn't know what to say anymore. This blog was really focused on a particular topic and now I really don't know what to say here anymore. I did consider just deleting it and erasing any iota of its existence but I thought that would be so rude. Although I haven't discussed with anyone off this blog, just the thought that you actually take time to read my ramblings makes me consider you a friend.

So its hello because I have been away for a while. It may be goodbye or goodbye for now as I consider what the next step is. Even if I continue blogging, it will be somewhere else so we may just be parting to meet. So many things happened over the last few months but suffice to say that IT IS OVER.

How am I? Today, good, really good. There are different phases that I have been through, the sad days, the angry days (angry at him, me, even God sometimes....ask me what God did?), up days, down days. After a while I realised that I was laughing more than I was quiet. I caught myself laughing at a joke someone made and I stopped in the middle as if 'what's so funny, why are you laughing?' and I answered myself (no, I'm not going crazy yet) I'm laughing because I can, because I'm still here and because that joke is so funny! Life is about moments, some more precious than others, always unique, rarely repeated. There will only be one today 7/10/2010 and as my friend says 'a day without laughter is a day wasted'.

I regret some things but this relationship although not successful made me learn some things about Esther...that commitment is a big word, its not for children. There were some things that I could not accept. What if I found out after we were married is a question I get asked sometimes? Honestly, I don't know, I'm sorry I don't. I used to think nothing would ever make me leave but its really difficult to hold on to someone who is not holding on to you. I told him when we finally did speak (after about 4 and a half months) that he made it very easy to walk away. I don't hate him, there's a way I will always be concerned about him but that is where the story ends.

I still find it strange when people come to me for relationship advice...even with all my warnings that I have been unsuccessful...lol! I tell them about my mistakes, about our good times. Never underestimate the power of communication. Its not about having conversations or spending hours on the phone. People who work in call centres spend hours on the phone, they're selling not bonding. Its about being able to be vulnerable and share those things you don't want anyone else to know about you. To be able to tell someone they hurt you or you love them and your thoughts about everything. It doesn't happen on day 1 but it is a commitment you must be willing to make. There is also a difference between a nice person and a responsible one. No one is perfect, give room for mistakes. My friend told me 'you don't know how much you love until love is required via forgiveness.' Hmm..

Maybe I'll continue this journey, maybe not. I must admit that there is a way life as a single person is interesting. Thanks for being part of the journey so far and I pray that your respective journeys are beautiful and you walk the path designed for you always. There are changing scenes and seasons but God always remains true.

Hugs and Kisses

Esther Hadassah

9 comments:

Blessing said...

Esther! I was juss thinking about this blog yesterday and was wondering how u were doing!

I'm glad to see that ur handling the issue very well...and it's amazing how you can advise ppl thru ur pain...everything happens for a reason...I once read somewhere that God turns ur mess into ur ministry.

I pray that soon and very soon, that your heart will heal completely and that God would bless you with ur bone of ur bone in due time!

If u do delete this blog and start another, kindly let us know! I'd love to see how God will turn this experience into a testimony.

Stay Blessed *hugs*

Myne said...

Hugs and kisses to you too. I second what Blessing has said. You have beauty ahead of you because you have chosen to see beauty even in this. All the best dear...

doll (retired blogger) said...

It is well with you sister. i am sure you woul meet a man that would make you go down on your knees and thank God this relationship did not work out. That is God for you, when he blesses you, you would be in no doubt that it is God.

Remain blessed

Anonymous said...

loads and loads and loads of kisses dear. I've said it before and i'll say it again. You'll look back in the next couple of years and you'll dance and rejoice when you think back.

I like that you said ..........

Its not about having conversations or spending hours on the phone. People who work in call centres spend hours on the phone, they're selling not bonding..........

I can relate to thatsooo well.

I look forward to that new phase. Keep being strong

Anonymous said...

Beautifully put.
your time is in God's hands.
He will exceed your hope and imagination. it is well. laugh loud and laugh well :)
love you plenty,

Chichi.

NewLife said...

How are you doing dear, thinking about you, hope all is well. *hugs*

Hadassah said...

@all: Please accept my sincere apologies, I thought I had responded to your comments. Thanks your support has been so important and are the main reason for not taking the blog down. God bless you all..

Ayomipo Matthew Edinger said...

happy new year. you have not blogged in a while. hope you are doing good.

thank you for keeping this blog alive still. it is a comfort to some of us.

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